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		<title>Food and Drink before speaking?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Dec 2011 13:42:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is a good article by:  Andrew Dlugan
Food and Drink Do’s and Taboos for Speakers
Like much of the advice given on Six Minutes, you must adapt the guidance in this article to your own personal situation. Every speaker has different digestive habits, and what works for one speaker may not work for another. The key [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2><span style="font-size: small"><strong>This is a good article by:  Andrew Dlugan</strong></span></h2>
<h2>Food and Drink Do’s and Taboos for Speakers</h2>
<p>Like much of the advice given on <em>Six Minutes</em>, you must adapt the guidance in this article to your own personal situation. Every speaker has different digestive habits, and what works for one speaker may not work for another. The key is to realize that <strong>your performance can be impacted by your diet</strong>.</p>
<p>That being said, here are a few general guidelines:</p>
<ol>
<li>On the day of your presentation (or perhaps the day before if you are speaking first thing in the morning), <strong>practice moderation</strong>. You should not consume too much, nor too little, because both extremes can leave you ill — and that’s going to degrade your delivery.</li>
<li><strong>Avoid eating or drinking anything new</strong>, as you never know when your body might react badly to an unfamiliar ingredient. Beware of spicy and rich foods. This is a common affliction to speakers who travel to their speaking opportunities.</li>
<li><strong>Avoid eating a particularly heavy meal an hour or two before you speak</strong>. It is ironic that the process of digestion <em>requires</em> a great deal of energy. Thus, your body tends to be lethargic at this time. This can have a distinct negative effect on your gestures and overall energy level.</li>
<li><strong>Avoid alcohol entirely before speaking.</strong> While (I hope) it is common sense not to get drunk, I also recommend avoiding alcohol entirely before you speak. Even a small amount can impair your cognitive abilities, something which you need to be at peak efficiency. Don’t follow the advice that encourages a drink or two “to calm your nerves.” While it may calm your nerves, it will also have a negative effect on your judgment… and that’s always a bad thing with a microphone in your hand.</li>
<li><strong>Avoid dairy and other mucous-producing foods</strong>. These tend to build up mucous in your throat, promoting repeated (and distracting) clearing of your throat. Some speakers have also told me that soft drinks or other sugary drinks have the same negative effect.</li>
<li><strong>Avoid diuretics</strong>, notably caffeine drinks (coffee, tea, soft drinks) and alcohol. Before and during your speech, you want to be comfortable, and you don’t need this distraction.</li>
<li><strong>Some speakers avoid ice cold beverages; some swear off hot beverages.</strong> In both cases, the rationale is that it negatively affects your vocal comfort. The lesson is that you should develop self-awareness of what works for you.</li>
<li><strong>Drink water.</strong> I’m a huge believer that nothing is better for your voice (and, your overall health) than drinking lots of water. Ensure that you stay well-hydrated the day you speak. It’s also a good idea to keep a bottle of water nearby while you speak. Not only will it help you remedy a dry mouth, but the act of taking a drink is a good opportunity for you to pause, transition, and check your notes discretely.</li>
<li><strong>Some speakers adhere to strict habits</strong> about eating a certain food before every presentation they give. For example, one speaker I know eats a banana about half an hour before every presentation. As long as you keep it light, I don’t see much harm in calming yourself with a small indulgence.</li>
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<p>Speak well, and enjoy a treat… after you finish!</p>
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		<title>Persuasive Speaking</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Oct 2011 23:38:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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This is a portion of an article by Marjorie Brody. 
Presentation Power:
by Marjorie Brody
Jan 9th, 2011

Aristotle said that all speaking is persuasive speaking.
I agree. After all, who am I to argue with Aristotle?!?
Regardless of the venue (10 people or 1,000 people, a conference, a sales call, or a feedback session), we, as speakers, are always [...]]]></description>
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<h1><strong><span style="font-size: small;">This is a portion of an article by Marjorie Brody. </span></strong></h1>
<h1>Presentation Power:</h1>
<div><em>by <a href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/4-ways-persuasive/#author">Marjorie Brody</a></em></div>
<div>Jan 9th, 2011</div>
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<p>Aristotle said that all speaking is persuasive speaking.</p>
<p>I agree. After all, who am I to argue with Aristotle?!?</p>
<p>Regardless of the venue (10 people or 1,000 people, a conference, a sales call, or a feedback session), we, as speakers, are always trying to sell our credibility and value – not to mention our ideas. Hence, all speaking is persuasive.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, all too often presenters think they are “just giving information.” “Information” is often better delivered in written form, giving the audience time to digest and think about the material.</p>
<p>Just think for a minute how much time would be saved if people read the material in advance, and the group time was spent answering questions.</p>
<p>That being said, presenting information in a way that shows passion and enthusiasm not only makes the material more interesting, but the speaker more memorable and inspirational – even persuasive.</p>
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		<title>How to Rehearse Your Speech</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 May 2011 02:28:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Excellent article by Andrew Dlugan:
How to Rehearse Your Speech
“Rehearsing even one time will improve your confidence in your material.” 
You might practice for 60 hours. You might practice for 60 minutes. Either way, here are a few tips that will help you achieve maximum benefit from time spent rehearsing:

Re-create the speech setting
 Reading your speech [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Excellent article by Andrew Dlugan:</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>How to Rehearse Your Speech</strong></span></p>
<p><strong>“</strong><strong>Rehearsing even one time will improve your confidence in your material.</strong><strong>”</strong><strong> </strong></p>
<p>You might practice for <strong>60 hours</strong>. You might practice for <strong>60 minutes</strong>. Either way, here are a few tips that will help you achieve maximum benefit from time spent rehearsing:</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Re-create the speech setting</strong><br />
 Reading your speech at a desk (or from your computer screen) is not      optimal unless you are preparing for a webcast. Try to duplicate the      speech setting as much as you can.</p>
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<ul>
<li>Practice in <strong>the room where you’ll be speaking</strong>,       if you can.</li>
<li><strong>Stand up</strong>.       You get more realistic voice projection.</li>
<li>Rehearse with <strong>props and visual aids</strong>.</li>
<li>Arrange an <strong>audience</strong>. Practicing with an       audience is better than practicing without one… even if it is not your       target audience.</li>
<li>Consider <strong>what you will wear</strong> when your speech       will be delivered. Will it add complications? Inhibit gestures or       movement in any way?</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li><strong>Take notes</strong><br />
 Don’t hesitate to stop yourself in the middle of your rehearsal to jot      down ideas as they come to you. Capture internal feelings immediately.</li>
<li><strong>Experiment</strong><br />
 Try out different voices, gestures, or staging. This is especially      important for your opening, conclusion, and any other key points. <strong>Give      yourself confidence</strong> knowing that these lines will be delivered      precisely as you intended.</li>
<li><strong>Time yourself</strong><br />
 You can easily do this yourself, but it helps if someone else can time      you. <strong>Insert planned pauses</strong>, and insert delays when you expect      laughter or some other audience response. This may feel funny, but an      accurate timing estimate will tell you if you need to do more editing.</li>
<li><strong>Use all that you learn</strong> to edit your speech and make it better.</li>
</ul>
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		<title>Hate Long, Rambling Speeches?  Try Pecha-Kucha</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Oct 2010 13:36:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Power Point]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is an interesting article by Lucy Craft (edited so this blog is not long and rambling).  It makes many good points that should be considered when preparing a speech or presentation!
Moe Davis
It&#8217;s the bane of students, business people and even the military: If you&#8217;ve ever yawned through a slideshow, you&#8217;re probably familiar with that [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em><strong>This is an interesting article by Lucy Craft (edited so this blog is not long and rambling).  It makes many good points that should be considered when preparing a speech or presentation!</strong></em></p>
<p><em><strong>Moe Davis</strong></em></p>
<p>It&#8217;s the bane of students, business people and even the military: If you&#8217;ve ever yawned through a slideshow, you&#8217;re probably familiar with that dreaded malady of modern times, known as &#8220;Death by PowerPoint.&#8221;</p>
<p>Now, for the long-suffering audience, there&#8217;s some good news. Tokyo architects Mark Dytham and Astrid Klein hit on the antidote to presentation overload — a style they dubbed pecha-kucha, Japanese for &#8220;chitchat&#8221; — and their elegant solution is taking the world by storm.</p>
<p>Dytham and Klein are easygoing by nature, but if there&#8217;s one thing they can&#8217;t stand it&#8217;s slideshows full of hot air. So when the pair staged a forum featuring the work of their architect friends, they laid down one rule as simple as it was extreme.</p>
<p>&#8220;The problem with architects is they talk too much. So how could we find a way to stop them? You get passionate about whatever you&#8217;re talking about and you go on forever and ever — so we came up with 20 slides, 20 seconds a slide,&#8221; he says. He says 10 slides, 10 seconds per slide was too short and 30 slides, 30 seconds per slide was too long.</p>
<p>&#8220;We were trying to find a catchy 5 minutes or so for the architect to present,&#8221; he says.</p>
<p>With speakers allotted a draconian 6 minutes and 40 seconds each, Dytham and Klein were able to pack 20 speeches — or rather, speechlets — into a single evening. Klein named these curious events after a quaint old Japanese onomatopoeia.</p>
<p><strong>Pecha-Kucha Goes Viral</strong></p>
<p>At first, pecha-kucha (pronounced: peh-CHAKH-cha) was purely local. But then, something strange happened. Without any prompting or publicity, and to the astonishment of its founders, the format went viral.</p>
<p>In just the past three years, the speech events have taken root in hundreds of cities in the U.S. and worldwide, from Amersfoort, Netherlands, to Saragossa, Spain. New cities are added, on average, every 72 hours. Nearly a quarter of a million people every year gather in warehouses, old prisons and forest clearings for pecha-kucha nights — a spectacle that seems to belie the pretenses of the online age.</p>
<p>&#8220;People really like to get together physically,&#8221; Dytham says. &#8220;We forget that on Facebook. They say they&#8217;re &#8216;social networks,&#8217; but they&#8217;re not really; they&#8217;re anti-social networks. People in a city want to get together and have a chat and a beer. And this was a way to pull people together.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>We Have Met the Enemy and He Is Power Point</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Apr 2010 21:56:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This article makes a lot of good points! (not power points)  Do not put the chickens to sleep!
Moe Davis
April 26, 2010
We Have Met the Enemy and He Is PowerPoint
By ELISABETH BUMILLER
WASHINGTON — Gen. Stanley A. McChrystal, the leader of American and NATO forces in Afghanistan, was shown a PowerPoint slide in Kabul last summer that [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This article makes a lot of good points! (not power points)  Do not put the chickens to sleep!</p>
<p>Moe Davis</p>
<p>April 26, 2010</p>
<p><strong>We Have Met the Enemy and He Is PowerPoint</strong></p>
<p><strong>By <a title="More Articles by Elisabeth Bumiller" href="http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/people/b/elisabeth_bumiller/index.html?inline=nyt-per">ELISABETH BUMILLER</a></strong></p>
<p>WASHINGTON — Gen. <a title="More articles about Stanley A. McChrystal." href="http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/people/m/stanley_a_mcchrystal/index.html?inline=nyt-per">Stanley A. McChrystal</a>, the leader of American and NATO forces in Afghanistan, was shown a PowerPoint slide in Kabul last summer that was meant to portray the complexity of American military strategy, but looked more like a bowl of spaghetti.</p>
<p>“When we understand that slide, we’ll have won the war,” General McChrystal dryly remarked, one of his advisers recalled, as the room erupted in laughter.</p>
<p>“PowerPoint makes us stupid,” Gen. James N. Mattis of the Marine Corps, the Joint Forces commander, said this month at a military conference in North Carolina. (He spoke without PowerPoint.) Brig. Gen. H. R. McMaster, who banned PowerPoint presentations when he led the successful effort to secure the northern Iraqi city of Tal Afar in 2005, followed up at the same conference by likening PowerPoint to an internal threat.</p>
<p>“It’s dangerous because it can create the illusion of understanding and the illusion of control,” General McMaster said in a telephone interview afterward. “Some problems in the world are not bullet-izable.”</p>
<p>Commanders say that behind all the PowerPoint jokes are serious concerns that the program stifles discussion, critical thinking and thoughtful decision-making. Not least, it ties up junior officers — referred to as PowerPoint Rangers — in the daily preparation of slides, be it for a Joint Staff meeting in Washington or for a platoon leader’s pre-mission combat briefing in a remote pocket of Afghanistan.</p>
<p>Last year when a military Web site, <a title="Restricted access" href="http://companycommand.army.mil/">Company Command</a>, asked an Army platoon leader in Iraq, Lt. Sam Nuxoll, how he spent most of his time, he responded, “Making PowerPoint slides.” When pressed, he said he was serious.</p>
<p>General McChrystal gets two PowerPoint briefings in Kabul per day, plus three more during the week. General Mattis, despite his dim view of the program, said a third of his briefings are by PowerPoint.</p>
<p>Commanders say that the slides impart less information than a five-page paper can hold, and that they relieve the briefer of the need to polish writing to convey an analytic, persuasive point. Imagine lawyers presenting arguments before the Supreme Court in slides instead of legal briefs.</p>
<p>Senior officers say the program does come in handy when the goal is not imparting information, as in briefings for reporters.</p>
<p>The news media sessions often last 25 minutes, with 5 minutes left at the end for questions from anyone still awake. Those types of PowerPoint presentations, Dr. Hammes said, are known as “hypnotizing chickens.”</p>
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		<title>Can you hear me?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Mar 2010 12:43:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Great article by Kate Peters:
The Three Key Components of a Powerful Sound
The key components of a powerful sound are:

personality,
passion, and
strong vocal physique.

The first two components are achieved by being yourself and by being clear about your intention. The third, through awareness and practice.
1. Personality
Personality is “you” and the unique gifts you share with your audience. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great article by Kate Peters:</p>
<p><strong>The Three Key Components of a Powerful Sound</strong></p>
<p>The key components of a powerful sound are:</p>
<ol>
<li>personality,</li>
<li>passion, and</li>
<li>strong vocal physique.</li>
</ol>
<p>The first two components are achieved by being yourself and by being clear about your intention. The third, through awareness and practice.</p>
<p><strong>1. Personality</strong></p>
<p>Personality is “you” and the unique gifts you share with your audience. Personality is the unique imprint your thought leaves on your voice, making it distinguishable from other voices and revealing things about your particular experiences and perspective. You cannot escape the revelatory nature of your voice. The essence of who you are is in your voice for all to hear.</p>
<p>If you want to be heard, it’s vital that you celebrate your authentic self. In a <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/21/business/21xerox.html?pagewanted=3" target="_blank"><em>New York Times</em> interview</a> Ursula Burns, the impressive new head of Xerox Corporation, wisely remarked,  “I can’t try to say it in somebody else’s voice. I have to say it in my voice.”</p>
<p><strong>2. Passion</strong></p>
<p>Passion is the power of intention aligned with content and personality. We have already covered personality, so what about intention and content?</p>
<p>Content is simply what you have to say. It’s your message, your words, your ideas manifested in spoken form. Intention, on the other hand, is what you have in mind to do or bring about. It is why you are speaking in the first place, why you are standing in front of an audience, what you hope to accomplish. When intention, content and personality align, we have passion. And when there is passion, powerful things happen.</p>
<p>When a speaker is passionate, they seem authentic and genuine. For that reason, actors are trained to pour intent in their lines and speak with passion. We are so tuned in to this aspect of voices that babies as young as six months old can discern intention in voices. I have <a href="http://katepeters.com/blog/2010/02/23/the-power-of-intention-the-secrets-your-voice-reveals/" target="_blank">written about this subject</a> in my blog.</p>
<p>If your intention is unclear, if it conflicts with your message or even with the reason people <em>think</em> you are there, your vocal power will diminish and you’ll lose your audience.</p>
<p><strong>3. Strong Vocal Physique</strong></p>
<p><strong>“</strong><strong>Speaking louder doesn’t create a powerful voice.</strong><strong>”</strong><strong></strong></p>
<p>Strong vocal physique is the ability to produce a vibrantly resonant sound and to have a good command of breathing technique.</p>
<p>Because sound travels on air, resonance and air are intimately connected in the voice. In an earlier <em>Six Minutes</em> article, I focus on <a title="Breathing: The Seductive Key to Unlocking Your Vocal  Variety" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/vocal-variety-speech-breathing/" target="_blank">good breathing technique for speaking</a>. This is important because air itself makes the voice work. As you exhale, air moves from your lungs through your trachea (or windpipe). It then passes between your vocal folds (also called arytenoids and vocal cords) and brings those muscles together. As they vibrate, sound happens. You use your throat, tongue, lips, and jaw to shape the sound into words.</p>
<p>Now, if someone tells you to speak up, there is a good chance you will use more air as you increase your volume. That’s an improvement. But speaking more loudly may just come across as yelling — and you also risk straining your voice. It is more correct to suggest that you stand up straight, take a big breath, and use more air to carry the sound as you speak up, but that is a very long set of instructions for even the best of sound men! Better that you know what “project” means so you do it right.</p>
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		<title>Diminishing Use of Eye Contact?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 21 Mar 2010 23:07:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ Eye Contact
By SALLY FRIEDMAN
I want to be looked at. And honestly, I’m not an exhibitionist.
It’s just that eye contact has gone the way of proper enunciation, a good handshake and a hug that means something — casualties of modern life.
Time was when eyes met other eyes in conversation, and surely in the quest for [...]]]></description>
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<p><em>By <a title="See all posts by SALLY FRIEDMAN" href="http://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/author/sally-friedman/">SALLY FRIEDMAN</a></em></p>
<p>I want to be looked at. And honestly, I’m not an exhibitionist.</p>
<p>It’s just that eye contact has gone the way of proper enunciation, a good handshake and a hug that means something — casualties of modern life.</p>
<p>Time was when eyes met other eyes in conversation, and surely in the quest for connection. The wide-open gaze was no big deal. It was, in fact, commonplace. To be looked at was to be acknowledged, attended to.</p>
<p>Not anymore.</p>
<p>“Look at Grandma when you say hello,” one of my daughters instructed her son Jonah recently. I wanted to cheer. Of course, the grandchild in question was hunched over a computer screen and had managed merely a grunt when I arrived.</p>
<p> Because so much communication now is not face to face, eye to eye is an endangered species. Twitter, Facebook, text messaging — no eye contact necessary.</p>
<p>Which is why I felt so stung recently when I was having lunch with a good friend who spent much of our time together scanning the restaurant for — well, I don’t know what. But she surely wasn’t intent on seeing eye to eye with me.</p>
<p>How does one say to a friend who’s been there through the first bra, the geology final and three pregnancies that she should be looking at me, not the woman with the great highlighted hair, or the plate of strudel at the next table.</p>
<p>I sometimes wonder whether it was those 1980s cocktail parties that forever messed things up. It was an era defined by that constant seeking of the next conversation, the next potential client/customer/broker/date.</p>
<p>Of course, urban streets and elevator etiquette practically forbid eye contact — just try getting some meaningful “I’ll look at you/you look back at me” going, and you’re likely to be dismissed as a weirdo. But I live in a small town without a single elevator building. And even here in Moorestown, N.J., ranked No. 1 on Money magazine’s list of the best places to live in 2005, only a neutral nod is acceptable on our quaint little Main Street.</p>
<p>Time was when I would walk this same street and look directly at the person coming toward me. Not these days when suspicion seems to have spread like some virus.</p>
<p>But I don’t give up easily. I continue to seek out other eyes during intermissions at theaters, hoping I’m not committing some venial social sin by invading anyone’s personal bubble of space. To date, few have sought mine.</p>
<p>I look into the eyes of my grandchildren even before I hug them. And recently, Jonah, the 10-year-old, actually looked back at me and announced with some interest that my eyes are blue.</p>
<p>Actually, they’re green.</p>
<p>But it’s a start.</p>
<p><em>Sally Friedman is a freelance writer who lives in Moorestown, N.J.</em></p>
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		<title>Be brief, be bright and be gone!</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jan 2010 11:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We are not always  &#8220;Bashing&#8221; Power Point.  It has it&#8217;s place.  Just don&#8217;t always default to it.  Think&#8230;&#8221;Do I really need a Power Point presentation to make my point?
From interview with Teresa Taylor, chief operating officer of Qwest: 
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We are not always  &#8220;Bashing&#8221; Power Point.  It has it&#8217;s place.  Just don&#8217;t always default to it.  Think&#8230;&#8221;Do I really need a Power Point presentation to make my point?</p>
<p><span style="font-size: medium;"><em>From interview with Teresa Taylor, chief operating officer of Qwest: </em></span></p>
<p>It’s amazing, there will be eight people in the room and they all have a different answer of what’s going on there. I’ll also say, once we’re clear about what we’re doing: “Does everyone need to be here? If anyone feels like they want to leave right now, that would be fine.” Every once in a while a couple of people will say, “Yeah, I could use this time back,” and they get up and leave.</p>
<p>Q. But you could chew up 10 minutes just going around the table.</p>
<p>A. Sure, I think it’s a good 10 minutes. I really do.</p>
<p>Q. What about presentations?</p>
<p>A. I use a little saying, which is, “Be brief, be bright and be gone.” It’s also not uncommon for me to say, “Why don’t we put the PowerPoint aside for a minute and why don’t you just talk to me?”</p>
<p>Q. What’s the maximum number of PowerPoint slides you want to see?</p>
<p>A. Six. But I actually prefer no PowerPoint. To be honest, I’d rather just talk. A really great meeting, to me, is someone who is just talking to me and might give me a piece of paper or two to support something, but that’s it.</p>
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		<title>The 25 Public Speaking Skills Every Speaker Must Have</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:16:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[These are good points from Andrew Dlugan!
The 25 Public Speaking Skills Every Speaker Must Have
by Andrew Dlugan
Oct 31st, 2007
 
Inspired by 25 Skills Every Man Should Know, I pondered a list of the 25 essential skills every public speaker should have. How did I do?
Every public speaker should be able to:

Research a topic – Good [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em><span style="font-size: large;">These are good points from Andrew Dlugan!</span></em></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>The 25 Public Speaking Skills Every Speaker Must Have</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><em>by <a href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/25-skills-every-public-speaker-should-have/#author">Andrew Dlugan</a></em></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;">Oct 31st, 2007</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"> </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;">Inspired by <a title="Popular Mechanics" href="http://www.popularmechanics.com/blogs/technology_news/4221635.html">25 Skills Every Man Should Know</a>, I pondered a list of the <strong>25 essential skills every public speaker should have</strong>. How did I do?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;">Every public speaker should be able to:</span></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Research a topic</strong> – Good speakers stick to what they know. Great      speakers research what they need to convey their message.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><a title="Speech Preparation Series: Selecting a Speech Topic" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/speech-preparation-2-select-topic-idea/"><strong>Focus</strong></a> – Help your      audience grasp your message by focusing on your message. Stories, humour,      or other “sidebars” should connect to the core idea. Anything that doesn’t      needs to be edited out.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><a title="Speech Preparation Series: Don’t Skip the Speech Outline" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/speech-preparation-3-outline-examples/"><strong>Organize ideas logically</strong></a> – A well-organized presentation can be absorbed with minimal mental      strain. Bridging is key.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Employ quotations, facts, and      statistics</strong> – Don’t include these for the      sake of including them, but do use them appropriately to complement your      ideas.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><a title="How to Make Metaphorical Magic in Your Speech" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/metaphor-speech-examples/"><strong>Master metaphors</strong></a> –      Metaphors enhance the understandability of the message in a way that      direct language often can not.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><a title="Book Review: The Story Factor (Annette Simmons)" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/story-factor-book-review-annette-simmons/"><strong>Tell a story</strong></a> –      Everyone loves a story. Points wrapped up in a story are more memorable,      too!</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><a title="Electrify Your Audience with a Shocking Speech Opening" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/how-to-open-a-speech-opening/">Start strong</a> and <a title="10 Ways to End Your Speech with a Bang" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/10-ways-to-end-your-speech/">close stronger</a></strong> – The body of your presentation should be strong too,      but your audience will remember your first and last words (if, indeed,      they remember anything at all).</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Incorporate humour</strong> – Knowing when to use humour is essential. So is      developing the comedic timing to deliver it with greatest effect.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Vary vocal pace, tone, and      volume</strong> – A monotone voice is like      fingernails on the chalkboard.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Punctuate words with <a title="Are Your Speech Gestures Too Small, Too Big, or Just Right?" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/size-gestures-speech/">gestures</a></strong> – Gestures should complement your words in harmony.      Tell them how big the fish was, and show them with your arms.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Utilize 3-dimensional space</strong> – Chaining yourself to the lectern limits the energy      and passion you can exhibit. Lose the notes, and lose the chain.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Complement words with visual      aids</strong> – Visual aids should <em>aid</em> the message; they should not <em>be</em> the message. Read <a title="Book Review - slide:ology by Nancy Duarte" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/presentation-skills-book-review-slideology-by-nancy-duarte/"><em>slide:ology</em></a> or the      <a title="Presentation Zen: Book Review" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/presentation-zen-book-review/"><em>Presentation Zen</em> book</a> and adopt the techniques.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Analyze the audience – </strong>Deliver the message they want (or need) to hear.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Connect with the audience</strong> – Eye contact is only the first step. Aim to have the      audience conclude “This speaker is just like me!” The sooner, the better.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Interact with the audience</strong> – Ask questions (and care about the answers). Solicit      volunteers. Make your presentation a dialogue.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><a title="Leading the Perfect Q&amp;A" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/leading-the-perfect-qa/"><strong>Conduct a Q&amp;A session</strong></a> – Not every      speaking opportunity affords a Q&amp;A session, but understand how to lead      one productively. Use the Q&amp;A to solidify the impression that you are      an expert, not (just) a speaker.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Lead a discussion</strong> – Again, not every speaking opportunity affords time      for a discussion, but know how to engage the audience productively.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Obey time constraints</strong> – Maybe you have 2 minutes. Maybe you have 45. Either      way, customize your presentation to fit the time allowed, and respect your      audience by not going over time.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Craft an introduction</strong> – Set the context and make sure the audience is ready      to go, whether the introduction is for you or for someone else.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Exhibit confidence and poise</strong> – These qualities are sometimes difficult for a      speaker to attain, but easy for an audience to sense.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Handle unexpected issues      smoothly</strong> – Maybe the lights will go      out. Maybe the projector is dead. Have a plan to handle every situation.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Be coherent when speaking off      the cuff</strong> – Impromptu speaking (before,      after, or during a presentation) leaves a lasting impression too. Doing it      well tells the audience that you are personable, and that you are an      expert who knows their stuff beyond the slides and prepared speech.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Seek and utilize feedback</strong> – Understand that no presentation or presenter (yes,      even you!) is perfect. Aim for continuous improvement, and understand that      the best way to improve is to solicit candid feedback from as many people      as you can.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><a title="How to Study and Critique a Speech" href="http://sixminutes.dlugan.com/speech-evaluation-1-how-to-study-critique-speech/"><strong>Listen critically and analyze other speakers</strong></a> – Study the strengths and weakness of other speakers.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Act and speak ethically</strong> – Since public speaking fears are so common, realize      the tremendous power of influence that you hold. Use this power      responsibly.</span></li>
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		<title>Open Enrollment Seminar 10-22-2009</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Sep 2009 15:45:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Moe Davis</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[[ October 22, 2009; 8:00 am to 12:00 pm. ] The ART of Effective Face to Face Business Communication

 

 

This 4 hour course teaches techniques and skills required for effective face to face communication.

 

This includes speaking and listening skills with groups or one-on-one situations.

 

“It is fun, fast paced and informative.”

 

You will learn how to



		Speak effectively before any size group 
		Become an active listener
		Sell [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<table class="ec3_schedule"><tr><td colspan="3">October 22, 2009</td></tr><tr><td class="ec3_start">8:00 am</td><td class="ec3_to">to</td><td class="ec3_end">12:00 pm</td></tr></table><p align="center"><strong><em>The ART of Effective Face to Face Business Communication</em></strong></p>
<p align="center"> </p>
<p align="center"> </p>
<p align="center"><em>This 4 hour course teaches techniques and skills required for effective face to face communication.</em></p>
<p align="center"><em> </em></p>
<p align="center"><em>This includes speaking and listening skills with groups or one-on-one situations.</em></p>
<p align="center"><em> </em></p>
<p align="center"><em>“It is fun, fast paced and informative.”</em></p>
<p align="center"><em> </em></p>
<p align="center"><em>You will learn how to</em></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Speak effectively before any size group </strong></li>
<li><strong>Become an active listener</strong></li>
<li><strong>Sell yourself and your ideas</strong></li>
<li><strong>Improve job performance and production</strong></li>
<li><strong>Control anxiety and inhibition</strong></li>
<li><strong>Heighten interest when you speak</strong></li>
<li><strong>Conduct and control Q &amp; A sessions</strong></li>
</ul>
<p><strong><em> </em></strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong><em>DATE AND LOCATION</em></strong></p>
<p align="center">October 22, 2009 (Thursday)</p>
<p align="center">8:00 AM – 12:00 PM</p>
<p align="center"><strong><em>The Hilton Garden Inn – 205.503.5220 </em></strong></p>
<p align="center">2090 Urban Center Parkway, Birmingham, Alabama  35242.</p>
<p align="center">Hotel is located in the suburban Liberty Park business district.</p>
<p align="center">I-459 Exit #23</p>
<p align="center"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Attendance is limited</span></strong></p>
<p align="center">$95.00</p>
<p align="center">For Enrollment Call: Nancy 205.706.0975, Moe 205.915.0630</p>
<p align="center">www.davisexecutivetraining.com</p>
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